Re:LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP..COPING UP?! - 2008/11/20 07:02
SANA NGA DESERVING SYA...I AM REALLY AFRAID KNOWING IN THE END ALL OF THIS HARDWORKS, SACRIFICES AND EFFORT WILL BE..ALL FOR NOTHING AND I HAVE TO START ALL OVER AGAIN..ALONE!! HUHUHU!!
CAN ANYONE SHARE THEIR SUCCESSFUL LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP? | am really typical and ordinary Filipina, late bloomer and in straight living. I dont give time to players..i am serious about life and so called enjoyment (in not so good sort) is not my type.
Pinays...just give pride and respect to ourselves. samahan nyo nman ako.
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mariko
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Re:LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP..COPING UP?! - 2008/11/20 06:50
thank you to those people who shared their experiences.. it seems that long distance relationship will not work...but we will see what will happen in the near future. like what i have said, i will keep to my promises as much as i can. As long as my habibi is helping me to fight with this battle...we are one! someday maybe the love will be gone but let us just give it a try. let the time answer my questions and doubts.
by the way, my habibi is a typical filipino man who has also his shortcomings but despite of, i chose him to be my habibi...despite and inspite of everything.
I will hold on...and tighten my grip. KAPIT LANG! WALANG BIBITAW!
Mariko, 26yrs old,single battling from depressions and homesickness, hoping that after my contract i still have my habibi. hope he can wait. insha allah!
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Allow me first to introduce myself to you... My name is Jose Fernandez borned in Spain from a Lebanese father. I've been living in Kuwait for seven years, working in a 5 stars hotel as a General Manager.. I've been into many relationships and I've been married even...
I read what you have written here.. although I didn't understand much, but I came to know that you are in a relation with someone in your country and you are afraid that distance may separate you apart...
let me tell you this.. and please this is just my personal opinion.. Distance will surely kill the pasion and love, specially if there is no ties like "marriage" or "engagement".. The first thing man will do, is to search for a companion or someone who may spend time with, and most probably will be a woman!! If it was me, I'll do the same and seek for love.. love that I see everyday.. touch everyday.. kiss everyday.. talk to everyday.. and most important, the love that may share my everyday life !!
If you really love him "truely and purely"... then it is worth to give it a try and wait until you are back home... but you need to make sure that "He deserve it" and you made up your final decision that he'll be the love of your life.. the only one you really want to spend lifetime with..
You are 20.. for me you are still young! and Age is not in counting all your days, but counting your "most happy days" and then you'll know how old are you.. cause you won't regret or count a bad or sad day as a day of your life, right??
Mariko, I was impressed with your feelings and loyalty.. I wish I'll find someone like you to share my life.. my love..
If you don't mind, we may have some conversations in private you may add me to your msn or email me to adyforever1999@hotmail.com
regards,
Jose
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mariko
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Re:LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP..COPING UP?! - 2008/11/19 12:29
thank you jiazel, tama ka nga..ako lng nakakaalam kung hanggang kelan ako maghohold on. minsan kc kpag wla ka nakukuhang support sa taong pinaglalaban mo..prang gusto mo na din sumuko. gannun ata tlga ang buhay! ang hirap ng long distance relationship.
i will try to hold on...as much as i can..sana after ng contract ko meron pa kong babalikan sa pinas. im not getting any younger na din. gusto ko na din lumagay sa "magulo" hehhe...
thanks.
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jayzel85
Re:LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP..COPING UP?! - 2008/11/18 08:01
Hi Mariko,
Welcome to the community....
Anyways, when I read your post, parang nakikita ko ang sarili ko sau 2 years back...
Let me tell u my story and I'll give you some advice later...
Before ako napadpad d2 sa Kuwait, I have a boyfriend (Fiance, should I say) for over a year na. Dapat nga magpakasal na sana kami b4 ako umalis,kaya lang ayaw pumayag ng parents ko kc I'm just 20 years old that time. So, nag compromise kmi. I promised him na maximum of 2 years lang talaga ako d2 sa Kuwait and I'll comeback nga para tuparin ang promise ko sa kanya. Nung una, walang problema sa relasyon namin kahit na nga long distance. Everyday ung textting namin,walang paltos. nka survive kmi sa ganung set-up for over a year na wlang problema. Kaso lang, one day, nabigla nlang ako ng cnabi sakin ng parents ko na my iba na palang girl ung BF ko. AT first, di ko agad pinaniwalaan ung parents ko, inaway ko pa nga eh ksi I really love my BF that much na I trusted him a lot. I gave him the benifit of the doubt nga, or, di ko lang talaga ma accept na pwede plang mangyari un sa relasyon namin. I asked an explanaition from him, and of course he denied the allegations. He said na, friends lang daw cla nung girl, na kesyo ganito, ganun.. So, for the first incident, di ko un pinansin, hinayaan ko na.. Continues parin ung communication namin, na parang walang nagyari.. Akala ko, magiging ok na tlaga kami kasi in my part pinaninindigan ko tlaga ung promise ko sa kanya. As what you've said Mariko, ang daming temptation d2 sa Kuwait na kung hindi lang tayu ganun ka strong pra labanan at iwasan ay talagang magiging biktima tau. Lahat ng un kinaya ko, nilabanan ko, di ako nagpatalo sa temptation kasi ako ung tipo ng tao na kpag nag mahal ay my kasamang respeto at loyalty sa partner ko. Pro dumating na nman ung isang balita na tlagang parang ikakabaliw ko, sinabi sa akin ng pinsan ko na may pinakilala daw na GF ung BF ko sa knya at sa mga kaibigan nya. I was shocked, parang di ko kakayanin ung sakit na nararamdaman ko that time. ANd worst, hindi lang pinsan ko ang nag sabi sakin, pti kapatid ko at mga friends. Nung time na un, nagpakahinahon parin ako, tinext ko ung BF ko, I told him that if he OWES me an explanaition, I am ready to listen as long as he will be honest to me. And as what I expected to happend, he denied that allegations again. During that time, parang di ko na rin alam kung ano ba ang dapat kung gawin. After that incident, mdalang na xang nag tetext sakin, di na xa maxado nag re-reply samga txt ko unlike before. Parang wla na rin kc akong lakas na lumaban pa for our relationship kc nararamdaman kung ako lang ang gumagawa nun. Time comes na, nakipaghiwalay na nga ako sa kanya kc nahihirapan na rin ako. Ayaw niyang pumayag and worst of that binabiliktad niya ako, saying na baka ako daw ang my iba na d2 kaya gusto ko ng makipaghiwalay sa kanya. Life talaga, I am not affected of what hes accusing me kasi I know in my self na I've done everything just to save our relationship and swear to god na I havent done something wrong here.
Lately, I got a text from him saying na bago lang cla ng GF nya kasi before mag on daw cla pro sa txt lang.. HOW STUPID HE IS???
And now I am happy being single and I thank God because I really learned a lot from that experience.
For you Mariko, All I can say is, hold-on to what you feels. and you know what? Ikaw lang talaga ang nkakaalam kung kailangan o hanggang kelan ka mag ho-hold on sa relationship na meron ka. Be true to yourself, and be honest to your partner. And dont loss the thing that binds you together for now, COMMUNICATION.. Its really important.. Be strong and ask for HIS guidance and blessings.. HE will lead you to the right path..
God Bless You and the relationship that you had..
Til nextime,
jHiNg
mariko wrote: hi...can anyone tell me how to deal with long distance relationship. I have left habibi in phils. i am afraid that we cannot survive this test of time. natatakot ako na lht ng effort na ginawa ko pag uwi ko ng pinas wla na pala ko habibi?? and ang daming temptation dito..tama kayo malungkot nga tas may mga tao na gusto magpahalaga sayo..(pro right now i dont entertain coz im trying to hold as much as i can to my promises) natatakot lng ako na..nagtitiis ako tas in the end this will be all for nothing.
can you give me some advice on how to survive with this test of time? huhuhuhu!!
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mariko
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LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP..COPING UP?! - 2008/11/17 08:18
hi...can anyone tell me how to deal with long distance relationship. I have left habibi in phils. i am afraid that we cannot survive this test of time. natatakot ako na lht ng effort na ginawa ko pag uwi ko ng pinas wla na pala ko habibi?? and ang daming temptation dito..tama kayo malungkot nga tas may mga tao na gusto magpahalaga sayo..(pro right now i dont entertain coz im trying to hold as much as i can to my promises) natatakot lng ako na..nagtitiis ako tas in the end this will be all for nothing.
can you give me some advice on how to survive with this test of time? huhuhuhu!!
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gannun ata tlga ang buhay! ang hirap ng long distance relationship.